Ben School Issue

Ben has not been very happy at school. He started to cry after 1 month andrea left SA. Beside that, the school was also practicing concert, and he constantly tells me he doesn't like to dance (which i know is not true, he loves to dance so much at home). I start to feel really worry and asked if teacher scold or hit him, he said teacher pei yee scolded him. I then investigate, talking to class teacher felicita and teacher pei yee. What upset me the most, the told me they would ignore benjamin and he would be OK. Do they know that, ben is not OK? He refuse to go to school every morning! 

I was so sad because I thought SA is the best school I have found. Academic wise and emotionally wise as teacher yan would talk to every child when they are crying. After 3 years of operating, I couldn't believe my eyes and couldn't accept the change for the worse. Teacher yan was away the whole week due to his son admitted to hospital. The following week, i told him about teachers ignoring my son at school, he denied and said it's my choice to leave the school. (maybe i sounded harsh as well). In the middle of the night, I msg him on FB, asked him if he thinks ben should go to a school with different system, his replied was positive and asked me to stay and observe further. 

I have went to many kindy near KK. The only thing I'm looking at is academic, letterland or jolly phonics and finger counting. San lorenzo has letterland, the one and only kindy I've seen out of 5, this has it. I quickly signed up for trial and hoping for the best. I will let ben decide at the end of the day. As I don't know how to choose between, caring for his emotion 1st or making sure his academic progress is strong. I want both, but at this point of time, it seems so impossible. 

Teacher yan told me their school principal based on the 5 love language. He asked me to buy that book as it explains how people handles another person with different characteristic. I have ordered but not here yet. I told him, I like your school because of letterland and finger counting, but emotional needs always comes 1st. I feel so helpless, what is good for andrea, does not pass down to ben. What andrea is good at is not what ben is capable of doing. Although I'm having 2 children, I feel that I have SO much to learn and do for 2 totally different character kids, learnings, teaching, communicating, playing etc are all at opposite poles. 

In the end of the day. I could only pray for the best. What I'm receiving is what I've been asking intentionally or unintentionally. I've no complains but to improve and to strive further for my children's growth. So it is.